In my first post for this blog I spent some time discussing why I had decided to start with this blog and why I was not focusing on one specific niche. I have my hands in so many projects and ideas that it would not have served me well to focus on one specific area. Since I appear to have a full plate and hectic schedule I always get asked the “how do you do it?” question. I mean; motherhood, career, entrepreneurship, blogging, learning, speaking, fashion design, and wife duties as well as running a household. I will cover it all in this post, believe me it is not a one woman show, I have a lot of support from my family and the people I surround myself with. I will share a few nuggets on how you can take a few of my tricks and use them to help you balance your lives too. I acknowledge that not everyone’s situation is the same and I am the first to admit I have it better than most. My parents live with us and that takes care of one of the biggest challenges that most people face ,which is CHILDCARE so I will start off by addressing that issue.
1.CHILDCARE: We all have our little munchkins that we love so much and making sure they grow into healthy responsible adults is one of our biggest priorities. In order to achieve this we make every effort to ensure they are under the care of the most trustworthy individuals. As a result there is really a very small circle of people that we we end up trusting to look after our kids. When they are in school we at least know they are under capable hands unless you start seeing all these crazy gun shootings that have been going on. As parents we have the responsibility of coordinating the care of our kids, if we are at work who will pick up the kids and look after them until we are in a position to pick them up ourselves.All sorts of different scenarios. All this requires a , of time from us so it can therefore be challenging to find the time to do other things. If finding appropriate childcare is an issue that you face on a regular basis here is something worth considering that has worked for me in the past. A little out of the box thinking but a great way on ensuring your kids are safely cared for while take that needed date night is using your circle of friends, especially those that also have kids. It requires a little bit of give and take as you can all help each other out with childcare as needed. If you are one of those moms that doesn’t attempt to mingle or get to know the other moms at the school this is the time to get social. Get to know the parents of the kids your kids hang out with as these are the people you could trade childcare with. Trust in your people judgement skills and take the needed time to get to know these people. They might actually be some decent human beings that you can learn to trust and have a mutually beneficial relationship with by sharing childcare with them.
2.ME TIME: Once you figure out the childcare issues you will now be in a position to take advantage of creating some ME TIME, yes this exists and you need to start doing this for your sanity. This is one of the great ways of maintaining balance in your life. You have to create the time to date yourself and do things just for you. It makes for a well balanced, happy home, no one like to have a stressed out mommy around as this just makes for a miserable home.
3. PERSONAL GOALS: Most people I know have personal goals, whether they work on them or not is another story. What I find useful in helping me balance my life is creating personal goals at the beginning of the year and revisiting them on a monthly basis. SOme goals are easier to stick to then others and by checking in every month I am able to priorities and reshuffle what aint working. This helps me stay on schedule as I usually try and place deadlines on my goals in order to push myself to move from the dreaming stage to the action stage. I am not perfect but this is a way forward. By revisiting my goals on a monthly basis I can gauge the progress or lack of progress I have made towards the goals and believe it or not this helps in keeping me balanced.
4.FRIENDS: Besides your me time you need friends to help you with maintaining a balanced life so that you don’t feel like you are constantly peddling the hamster wheel. I am talking about the type of friends that can be supportive yet honest with you when you are acting the fool. You know the type that won’t let you wallow in your sorrow when you feel like the world somehow wronged you. We are so good at creating stories in our heads that keep us focused on our problems that we need friends that are able to tell us to get over ourselves. These are the friends that offer a listening ear to our venting our crying and our celebrations. Having such friends around has made my life so much easier.
5.TO DO LISTS: These work for some, and they tend to work for me as well. I am still trying to master the art, I have monthly to do lists and find if I don’t break these down further I end up not getting anything done. I have therefore started having weekly and daily to do lists as well. Every sunday I look at my big goals and create a to do list for the week and this helps me avoid overwhelm. I then break these down further to daily to do lists by creating a list of things I would like to get done for the following day.Tackling one thing at time is great and i get a sense of accomplishment when I get to cross out my achievements. I dont give myself a hard time if i am unable to complete the tasks for a given day, I simply add it to the list for the following day.
I have a lot more to share but I don’t want to loose you with too long a post so I will plan a future post to cover more tips and tricks to help you live a balanced life. I hope you are all remembering to STOP, TAKE A BREATH , AND REASSESS LIFE as you go about your daily business. Until the next post
With Love and Gratitude
Dr Fatsani Dogani
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