I recently celebrated my 40th birthday and reaching this milestone has awakened all sorts of feelings and hidden dreams that I don’t even know where to start. One thing that it has woken me up to is the fact that our time here is limited and that we need to be creating moments and enjoying the time we have with our loved ones. Two things in particular have made me more responsive to the living in the moment aspect of life. I was fortunate enough to have my sister join me for my birthday celebrations in Punta Cana and as crazy as it might seem I had not actually seen her for nearly 7 years. This is crazy because we both live here in the US we are just separated by multiple state lines but in reality we are really only a flight or 2 away from each other. So my question then became why haven’t we made more of an effort to see each other more frequently.?We have family scattered all over the place, some of my siblings live in England whilst others live in Malawi and South Africa. The last time we were all together as a group was in 2011 when we all flew back to Malawi for my baby brothers wedding. I am sure he won’t appreciate me calling him baby brother as he is now in his 30s, married and with kids of his own. Fact remains he is the baby of our family. As I was saying before my mind drifted off , I do not get to see my siblings frequently enough and the realization that I hadn’t seen my sister in years gave me some sobering moments. I talk to her all the time , so that is probably why I never thought too much about the fact that we hadn’t actually physically seen each other in years. Added to this sobering realization my older brother was involved in a car accident whilst he was transporting his car from one country to another and again this provided me with the opportunity to think about the importance of family. He is fine and he managed to escape the accident mainly unscathed, it did give us all food for thought though by us I am talking about my siblings and I. Our time here on earth is not guaranteed and things can happen in an instant , it is therefore extremely important to STOP, TAKE a BREATH and REASSESS LIFE. By this I encourage anyone and everyone to take the time to appreciate life and refocus on what they deem to be important in life. I have had the realization that family is important, we tend to take family for granted but my brothers accident has really given me a heightened awareness to place more importance to the moments we share and the memories we can create. I have decided to make more of an effort to create more meaningful moments with my own little family. I was able to take the time to go and watch the blockbuster movie Black Panther with my husband and 2 older kids and this was time well spent. Something that required minimum effort enabled us to create meaningful memories. I can now remember all the times I used to fight with my siblings with a smile on my face, I might have thought I hated them then but I now realize how much I love them and how thankful I am for the time I have had with them. Living in different countries makes it so difficult to create new memories but I pledge to make more of an effort to use the modern technology that we have now to keep in close communication with them. If anything I do not want to look back and say I should have made more of an effort to stay in touch with my macro family (my sibblings ). I am super blessed that both my parents are here and they spend the majority of their time living with my little family. Apart from all the help we get from them with raising our kids, my kids have also benefited from the added advantage of having all these moments sharing their achievement with them. I remember my parents as these strict authoritative figures when I was growing up, but I guess becoming grandparents has changed them. I am always amazed at what my kids are able to get away with when the grandparents are in charge. I guess the parents job is to discipline the kids and the grandparents are there to spoil them, regardless I am just very thankful that my kids get to spend all this time with their grandparents. I have nieces and nephews that would also love this opportunity to spend this type of precious time with their grandparents and as such we have decided to try and arrange a family reunion for this coming year. As I mentioned before the last time we were all in one place together was 2011. Back then there were only 17 grandkids we have since had 3 more additions to our clan and my parents asserts the pround grandparents of 20 kids. It would be awesome to get everyone together for such a reunion and I am excited to start planning it.
I hope sharing this has made some of you realize the importance of family, I do realize that not all families are created equal but when it’s all said and done, make the effort to spend time with your loved ones as our time here is limited.