Self Leadership

Hello All

I hope you are having a great week, if you have been following me for a while you will recall that one of my goals this year is to read 40 books that are somehow related to personal development and financial planning. At some point there I thought this was a bit out of reach but I now believe I will be able to achieve this goal. At this point I am on book number 26 meaning I only have to read 14 more books for the rest of the year no biggie.

One of the books I recently read was all about self leadership a term that I haven’t really come across. The full title of the book is ” Self Leadership and the One Minute Manager” …Increasing effectiveness through situational self leadership… discover the magic of no excuses (Ken Blanchard, Susan Fowler, Lawrence Hawkins). I am more in tune with the term self responsibility because I really believe we could all take a bit more responsibility for our lives. Self leadership is kinda similar although the focus was more about encouraging us to be our own leaders in our careers. What i loved about this book is that it was such an easy read, I couldn’t put it down I was done reading it in a day. A parable that talks through the process a young advertising goes through in realizing that he has to take responsibility in his own personal growth. Meaning he has to ask and seek out the training he needs to fulfill tasks that are unfamiliar to him. How many times do you go through life blaming circumstances or others for your own shortcomings. There is nothing wrong with not knowing something the problems begin when you decide to become a victim of the circumstances instead of the victor. Honesty is key if your boss gives you a task that you are unfamiliar with be honest enough to seek out clarification and training if need be… it will save you time and heart ache in the long run.

Self leadership means stepping up to the plate doing the deep work and assessing where you are and where you want to be in terms of your work goals, but it can also apply to your overall life goals. Have you honestly sat down and done a life assessment of where you are in terms of your life goals. Self leadership requires you to take the time to do such things. I do not want to speak for everyone but for the longest time my life was leading me and not the other way around. I want to lead my life… I want to be the leader of my career, my finances , my health etc… I want to do thing on my terms and in my time and self leadership makes me realize that this is all possible. I want to share a few quotes that really resonated with me from the book just to see how this concept can apply in your life.

Empowerment Is Something Someone Gives You. Self Leadership Is What You Do To make It Work”

I will let this sink in for a minute because that statement gave me chills, when you are empowered to do something do you do everything to make it work or do you find reasons and excuses about why you cant do it.

Ultimately, Its In Your Best Interest To Accept Responsibility For Getting What You Need To Succeed in The Work Place”

You are the best judge of where you are in the skills spectrum, what skills do you need to develop further to get the job done and to move beyond where you currently are.

An Assumed Constraint Is a Belief You Have, Based on Past Experience, That Limits Your Current And Future Experiences” That is me with excel , for the longest time I had this belief that I could never understand excel because it was way too complex, this is me with a PhD in epidemiology… we all have these assumed constraints. The key is taking ownership and acknowledging that these constraints are not helping us at all.

I could go on and own transcribing more nuggets from the book but i thin you will get more value from the book by reading it your self. I borrowed my copy from the library but you can get it from amazon here.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post and that you will consider self leadership in your own life. Sign up to receive more blog alerts as I publish them

With Love and Gratitude

Dr Fatsani Dogani

Welcome to my website and blog

pexels-photo-775779.jpegI would like to personally welcome you to my awesome blog. This is the first of many postings that I plan to share with you. As I was thinking about launching my personal blog and website I spent many a day wondering what my niche subject should be. Deciding on a topic area was giving me endless headaches because I just couldn’t decide what my focus should be. Then I decided to leave it to God…and Lord and behold that inner voice started asking me why do I have to choose a niche topic. It said “Fatsani you are so multifaceted in what you do, why do you have to choose one aspect of your life to talk about”. That then had me asking myself,” who said I have to stick to one thing, why not talk about different aspects of my life?”. So that was all I needed to decide that this platform will be used to share the different things that I am passionate about. After all, I am who I am because of the different life experiences I have had.. In list form which is by no means conclusive… I am a daughter, I am a sister, I am a cousin, I am a mother, I am an auntie, I am an entrepreneur, I am a fashion designer, I am a nurse, I am a PhD, I am an immigrant, I am an author, I am a Speaker….. And so on and so forth. So why limit myself to a specific “NICHE” Topic, I feel I would be doing the world a disservice by limiting what I share with it. So here I am, first blog post on my brand spanking new websiteI am here to share my story and to inspire, to move you all to get better every day. My drive behind going to all this trouble is to share the story that made me “Stop, Take a Breath, and Reassess Life” which also happens to be the title of my first self published book. See not so long ago I was living life as it came.. With goals and ambitions but with no urgency to change much about life. Then my husband got diagnosed with a spinal tumor that required major surgery that he is still getting over today and that was the kick that I needed to reassess where I was in terms of personal goals and achievements. Don’t get me wrong when people glance at my life and what I have been able to achieve I am sure they say I am not grateful for what I have. I have the PhD, a home, a great job, a great family etc, etc but added to that I also have the huge student loan debt. I am grateful for what I have but at the same time I know that the Lord created me to be more and to do more. I have the God given potential as do you to be able to live at a higher level. My thing is that I know I can do better, I know I should be living a life of financial freedom or rather I can live the dream life that I want as long as I put my mind to it. So here I am today reflecting on the fact that it took my husband being diagnosed with a tumor for me to realise that I wasn’t really living the life that I could be living. I hope that by sharing my story I can help others see that life is never guaranteed and that the unexpected can easily creep upon us and change our lives as we know it. So I am here to encourage you all to ask yourselves the hard questions…

  1. Are you doing what you love ?
  2. Are you waiting for the right time time?
  3. Are you prepared for the curveball we call life?

The right time might never come, you just have to decide what you want in life and start taking the steps to change your reality. I usually get carried away when I start talking about personal development and living our better lives so as a first post I will stop here. Just know I have a lot more to share with you. I will use this platform to educate where I can by sharing my stories and my life experiences. Like I said, I am such a multifaceted individual so expect to see different topics from me. I will aim to keep it entertaining and educational. I have a lot to share and I hope you keep coming back for new content.

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Till the next posting remember to Stop,Take a Breath, and Reassess Life.